23. (20171015) Which of the following ways can help children behave better?

— Limiting types of television programs and movies.

— Spend more time talking with children.

— Supervising and monitoring.

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下列哪个方式会让孩子们更守规矩？

——限制一些种类的电视节目和电影。

——花更多的时间和孩子交流。

——加强监督。

限制电视和电影：

孩子们的坏行为很多是从这些之中学来的。

让孩子多读书，成为更有修养的人。

交流：

了解孩子的真实想法，更有针对性地进行教育。

让孩子成为更讲道理的人。

加强监督：

短时间内能起到很好的效果，让孩子增强自律性，养成好习惯。

能及时发现问题，及时引导和纠正。

范文思路

论点：交流。

理由一：了解孩子的真实想法，更有针对性地进行教育。

理由二：让孩子成为更讲道理的人。

理由三：其他两个治标不治本，这种方法最能从根本上解决问题。

范文文本

As our living standards are gradually being improved by the advancement of science and technology, parents tend to spoil their children by providing them with an excessive amount of material care, such as pocket money and electronics. As a result, nowadays children have been observed to throw a tantrum a lot more frequently. This gives rise to a debate over the most effective measure of disciplining children. Personally, I deem spending more time to communicate with children the best solution to the behavioral problems of children.

First of all, only by openly talking to them can parents have an idea of what their children are actually thinking, and thus take a more personalized approach. While some parents deeply believe in the content of the so called “parenting” books one can easily buy in a bookstore, my opinion is that raising a child is not that simple. What I believe is that these books only provide standardized and common approaches that supposedly work on every child, and it is up to us to determine which method is the most suitable for our children. In order to do so, we need to communicate with them in order to find out about their true feelings and who they really are. Only after doing this can we proceed to selecting one of the existing methods whose efficacy has been proven and try to make our children behave.

Second of all, by talking to them and reasoning with them in order to get them on board with our methods, parents are raising their children to be more reasonable people. A reasonable person must respond to concrete reasoning. But if children behave themselves only because their parents told them so, it is likely that they would not be able to listen to any reason as grownups. In other words, if they merely obey their parents out of their authority, then without the power of authority, they will not be convinced by normal reasoning. Take myself as an example, my parents never ordered me to do anything without explaining to me why I am forbidden to do so. For example, my parents told me not to make a scene in a shopping mall when I don't get to buy what I want because I was not mature enough to know what was good for myself, and temporarily, my parents would make those decisions for me. Despite that I did not really understand why I was not mature enough back then, I listened to their reasoning. And now, I am grateful to my parents for raising me as a reasonable person.

Last but not least, in comparison with the other two solutions, which could only solve the superficial problems, talking with their children can solve the problem on a more profound and fundamental level. In other words, by doing so, parents can make their children behave for good, instead of merely disciplining them for a little while. This is because limiting certain types of TV shows and movies and supervision cannot concretely convince the children that these limitations are reasonable，and thus the only driving force behind children's compliance is the authority of their parents.

In a nutshell, I tend to believe that spending time talking with children is the best solution to children's behavioral problems.

语料积累

pocket money 零花钱

throw a tantrum 发脾气

efficacy 有效性

get sb. on board with sth． 令某人同意某事

superficial 表面的

compliance 服从

behavioral 行为的