Do You Have a Confident Jar
你有一只自信的罐子吗

人的生命应当像河流，开始是涓涓细流，受两岸的限制而十分狭窄，尔后奔腾咆哮，翻过危岩，飞越瀑布，河面渐渐开阔，河岸也随之向两边隐去。

人生物语
A Lesson in Life

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, they serve some sort of purpose, to teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be—your roommate, neighbor, professor, long lost friend, lover or even a complete stranger. When you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you and at the time they may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles, you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity—all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, if they are events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life and the successes and downfalls you experience—they are the ones who create who you are. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. Those lessons are the hardest and probably the most important ones.

有时，有些人一闯入你的生活你便知道他们本就想这么做，其中有着一定的目的——或给你一个教训，或帮助你明白你是谁或你要成为谁。你永远也不知道这些人会是谁，是你的舍友、邻居、教授、久违的朋友、爱人，甚或是一个完全陌生的人。当你与他们四目相对，你便知道他们会以某种深远的方式影响你的生活。

有时，一些事情发生了，它们看上去是那么可怕、痛苦和不公。但细想一下你就会明白，如果没有去努力克服这些难题，你将永远也不会知道自己的潜能、力量、意志力和内心。任何事情的发生都是有原因的，没有一件事是偶然发生的或是因某种好运或噩运发生的。疾病、伤害、爱、真正的伟大的消逝和完全的愚蠢——所有这一切的发生都是对你的精神极限的考验。不管这考验是一些事件、疾病或是某种关系，没有了它们，生活都将只剩下阳光大道，安稳、舒适，但却单调、没有意义，不会通往任何地方。

你遇到的那些影响你的生活的人和你所经历的成功或失败，都会让你看清自己。即使是不好的经历，也能让你从中得到教训。这些教训是最严酷的，但也可能是最重要的。

If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you how to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.

Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it.

“People are like tea bags—you have to put them in hot water before you know how strong they are.”

如果有人伤害了你、背叛了你或让你心碎，原谅他们吧，因为他们帮助你懂得了什么是信任，也让你明白了对那些你敞开心扉交往的人保持谨慎的重要性。如果有人爱你，那么也无条件地爱他们吧，不仅因为他们爱你，也因为他们教会了你如何去爱，如何打开心扉、张开眼睛去感受那些没有他们你便不能看到或感受到的世间的种种。

让每一天都过得有意义吧！享受生命中的每一刻，尽你所能从中汲取，因为以后你可能没有机会再有同样的经历。

与那些你从没打过招呼的人互相交谈聆听吧，让自己沐浴爱河吧，自由地冲破藩篱，让你的眼界更加高远吧！抬起你的头，因为你有权利这样做。相信自己，告诉自己你很了不起，因为如果连你自己都不相信自己，别人又怎能相信你？你能够按自己的意愿生活。去创造出自己的生活，然后走出来享受生活吧！

人就像茶叶，只有放到热水中，你才能知道他们有多强大。